Yes, I have been in a company of a group of which I clearly wasn't a member. But before we go into the details, let us think: why in the first place are certain individuals treated unpleasantly by the rest? Usually, this is because they are considered to be different from us in some ways, for instance being taller/shorter than most of the people in class, being fatter/thinner than most of the people in class, and so on. To me, it seems to happen almost everywhere.
Not being treated like a member would indeed be a torture as one would feel alone without the warmth of the company of others. That time, a friend of mind (Richard, if you happen to come across this, don't worry, it's not you)invited me to his birthday party.Other than recognising my friend the other day, I did not know anyone present at the birthday party at all. I thought perhaps we might be able to interact with each other, and maybe be friends with them. However they seem unwilling to talk to me. The longest conversation I had with one of them was: "Hi, I'm Gavin, what's your name?" "Oh, my name's ........., pleased to meet you." Nothing much was said between me and them anymore. Worst of all, everytime I laughed at one of their jokes, they would look at me as if I was a strange and queer specimen being examined under a microscope. If I acciendentally did something wrong they would stare at me with evident hint of hostility. Unfortunately, my friend did not know about it, and I did not had the heart to spoil his special day by telling him about it.
It was evident that just because I didn't know them, they just ignored me or even worse, look at me strangely or with hostility. This shows that people behave to others different from them unpleasantly most of the time
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